From painful to hopeful...đź’– 3 initial steps of your path to HOPE.
This week, I want to talk about PAIN and path to HOPE…
I want to share what has helped me when I've needed to process painful information...in the hope that can help you in your pain moments (now or in the future)…
Why it is harder to stay with hope and focus on manifestation when pain is RAW?
We all go through difficult times in life where the pain is real and raw...such as;
an unexpected health condition (your physical body limitations)
a separation or loss (death, divorce, un expected break-ups)
a financial crisis (bankrupt, losing bulk money, getting unemployed)
In my healing journey, those 3 were/ still are some of the hardest times…
Those are the times when the pain is real and raw…The sadness and shock are bigger than our daily life struggles and issues…
Those are the times where it feels like something heavy sits on our chest…it is harder to breathe…it is harder to care about daily issues…This is when the feeling of HOPE is needed the most.
In those moments, I can't switch on a positive, hopeful mood without processing my emotions first. So here is my path to hope...
1) Respect the pain, let your tears flow…
I love the Buddhist quote, “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.” The harm we do to ourselves in our minds is often more than the actual events. However, when pain is raw it deserves our attention…
In my journey, healing and transformation always started after accepting the pain of the situation…Crying is healing…therefore, I start by giving myself space and time to process my sadness, pain or heart break…
This is the time where I avoid talking to people who want to give solutions.
2) Surround yourself with people who can hold space for your pain and tears and even silence…
I like to be alone to process when I'm experiencing serious pain…I avoid seeing people who tell me things like: “don’t cry, it is going to be ok”.
I want to say “I know it is going to be okay but today let me process and let it out”…and yet, those first days are the hardest. Nobody wants to be alone when you receive bad health news or a death...
This is why, I realized accepting love and care from loved ones is crucial…They want to tell you that it is going to be ok because they don’t want to see you cry…
It helps them to realize that you need your space when you tell them that you are grateful for the support and you need space to be process.
Let your family/loved ones hold you while still respecting your space.
3) Write as much as you can, let all of the words in your brain out!
I can't tell you how much writing/ journaling can help you to process your emotions. I can guarantee that you would be surprised by the power of writing when processing pain. I realized that it helps especially in 2 critical moments;
When you wake up and can't start the day
When you go to bed and can't sleep
In both cases, a basic pen and journal can do miracles…When you write 3 pages, you let all of your thoughts onto the paper, and it helps you to either start your day better or sleep better.
Those are the 3 initial steps of your path to HOPE.
Then, the powerful healing and self-realization comes.
Now you can start questioning: “what am I learning from this suffering” and “how can I trust and keep the leap of faith” .
For this, one of the most powerful thing you can do by yourself is Meditation…Your soul is wise, it has all the answers.
In a meditative state, you can tune in to your guides or your inner wisdom;
to learn from the suffering without victim energy
to ask what is the inspired, aligned next step
to hold the vision of your desired outcome
Let’s remember the Buddhist quote again “pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional”. In my experience meditation helps when you ask for guidance on the pain that is processed/ respected by you…
For this month's meditation night, I will devote the energy clearing session to “Healing the Past, embracing the HOPE” .
It is on the full moon night (as always) on Thursday, 11th August….
I hope to see you there! Click here to register.